The door shut and then he was off for his morning walk. I think I forgot to kiss him good-bye even though he will be back in half an hour. We have a very good marriage. I know he knows that I love him.
Sometimes I am sitting at the computer when he leaves and he will call from the other room to tell me he is off to take a walk. “You will still be here when I get back, right?” He will ask.
My husband is a very thoughtful man. So much more kinder than I am. I do say good bye when I leave, or tell him if I will be sewing or in the garden, if he is near. I won’t make too much effort to find him though, if he is in the garage or in the back yard.
We take many things for granted. We think a loved one will always be there for us when we need them. Sometimes I will tell him, “Wait.” Even though I had just received a hug from him and he is off to run an errand. I will stop him in his tracks and get off my chair and go to him to give him a proper good bye.
It does not matter that it is just for a couple hours that he will be gone. It could be a short time to cut the lawn for all I care. Still, always say a proper good bye and cherish the moment. It is what great marriages are made of. It is all the many little things piled up in a heap of memories.
We don’t exchange Christmas, birthday or anniversary gifts. We don’t buy souvenirs for each other. We are both very frugal, but do take road trips, and trips to the bookstore for our date nights (when they are open and if they finally are now a days with the shut-down).
Sometimes he will surprise me with a pack of red licorice which I love, after he filled up the gas tank for me. I may sometimes cut him some marigolds and place them in a small jar along his bedside table. Small things are what gets noticed at our house.
You can’t multi-task when it comes to love. You have to be all in. Casual glances and blowing a kiss and yelling from another room to say good-bye does not cut it. If you never see this loved one again, you will have to live with that. I know it is not intentional and I have done this many times….and then I pray, “Keep him safe dear Lord.”
Give them a hug and a kiss that they will remember and you will too. You don’t have to live morbidly, but don’t take so much for granted in your marriage or any of your relationships that matter to you. So your kids haven’t called in a while? Why can’t you pick up the phone even though you always are the one to initiate.
I would love to think that my husband will out live me. I can’t imagine how hard it will be if I am left alone, but to wait how ever long God will have me here, to meet him again in heaven. I am glad neither one of us will ever have to make a choice about such things. I just try to be good, by the grace of God, to him as he has been to me all these years. We are never left alone….just love your family when they are near.
“I will be your God throughout your lifetime — until your hair is white with age. I made you, and I will care for you. ..” (Isaiah 46:4)